Ria's Recommended Reading

 The Inner Game of Tennis

Who Moved My Cheese?

Man's Search for Meaning

Where the Crawdads Sing

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Atomic Habits

Deep Work

The Power of Habit

Living Together

Conscious Loving

Ria's Recent Recommended Podcasts

 https://simonsinek.com/podcast/episodes/the-wisdom-of-anxiety-with-dr-tracy-dennis-tiwary/

https://simonsinek.com/podcast/episodes/the-sweet-bitter-with-susan-cain/

https://sites.libsyn.com/150527/1kho-92-make-real-life-compelling-andy-crouch-the-tech-wise-family

https://the-rachel-hollis-podcast.simplecast.com/episodes/julia-cameron-75l16Sni

https://www.nothingmuchhappens.com/stories/2022/2/14/season-9-episode-seven-supper-club

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-slight-change-of-plans/id1561860622?i=1000543072251

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-slight-change-of-plans/id1561860622?i=1000571408962

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-health/id1651698274?i=1000584003474

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chasing-excellence/id1170629044?i=1000585488641

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-nutrition-coach-podcast/id1563475214?i=1000517438509

Content Club: Having Fun Edition

Next Content Club is Monday, March 20th from 7-8pm.

https://ed.ted.com/lessons/why-having-fun-is-the-secret-to-a-healthier-life-catherine-price#watch

Fun is a feeling, not an activity. 

People who are having fun will look like they are being illuminated from within.

True fun produces this visceral sense of lightness and joy, it's radiant.

Three factors are consistently present during fun:

    Playfulness

    Connection

    Flow

          Chasing Excellence-Kick Ass 'til You Kick the Bucket (Aunt JoAnn-Language Alert)

-What's something that fascinates you?

-What's one thing that delighted you today?

-What is a memory in which you had the most fun?

-Who was with you, what were you doing, and what made it special? 

Content Club: Immunity to Change Edition

 

Here is a reference of coaching framework from Immunity to Change:

Explored on the Brene Brown-Dare to Lead Podcast with Lisa Lahey

https://brenebrown.com/podcast/immunity-to-change-part-1-of-2/

https://brenebrown.com/podcast/immunity-to-change-part-2-of-2/

-Clarity about what I want to change

-Rate 1-5 How important is this?

-Why is this important to me?

-What are the things I do and don't do that work against this goal?

-What hidden and/or competing commitments are there?

-How can I experiment/test new behaviors that challenge my current assumptions?

-Is it one big thing to focus on?

• Important to me
• A big deal to be dramatically better
• Want and feel urgency about getting better
• Not just that it would be nice-There is a need to change
• Others would value highly if I could get better at this

Content Club: Atomic Habits Edition

Here is a reference of questions, prompts and quotes from: 

The School of Greatness featuring Lewis Howes & James Clear-Episode 1372

https://lewishowes.com/podcast/habits-thatll-help-you-not-waste-another-of-your-life/

Three recommended daily habits:

-Movement, Discovering something new, A reflective practice

Setting and Accomplishing Goals

-Who is the person I wish to become?

-How do I want to be spending my days?

-What's the kind of identity I want to have?

-What habits reinforce that identity?

-Want to become the type of person that...

"You feel like a failure because you didn't hit this arbitrary target you set in the beginning but in fact...you're making progress! You're in a better position now than six months ago."

Season/Identity Shifts

-What am I optimizing for?

-What season am I in right now?

-When your season shifts your habits often need to shift with it.

-Out of all the options out there, is there a way to make it better with these constraints?

Ask Better Questions:

"Questions are crucial (flexible & adaptable)...advice is very dependent on context (brittle)."

-Can my current habits carry me to my desired future?

-How have I been complicit in creating the conditions I say I don't want?-Jerry Colonna

-Do I need to spend more time searching for better information or do I need to spend more time acting on the information I already have? (Bottleneck of strategy or execution)

-What should I attempt?

Useful & Empowering Story

Tell the story with no lies as the least favorable and then as the most favorable.

"When we can frame why we are doing things on a daily basis in a more empowering way as opposed to a dis empowering way it starts to feel like there is a lot more flow, fun, fulfillment, joy in life..."

Both Can Be True

-What one do you need right now?

Discipline/Forgiveness

Train/Rest

Read/Write

"Balance is about timing not intensity."

1% Five minutes at a time

-How can I live five good minutes?

-How can you live a good life today?

Focus on trajectory rather than position.

Time will magnify whatever you feed it.

"The results of success are widely discussed and highly visible and the process of success is often invisible and hidden from view."

We overvalue outcomes...undervalue process.

Most of your results in life are a lagging measure of the habits that proceed them. 

The tighter you cling to current identity the harder it is to grow beyond it.

Habits are not a finish line to be crossed, they are a lifestyle to be lived.

-What can I achieve even on the worse days?